Seo In-young of Jewelry Opens Up About Remarriage, Receives Candid Advice from Lee Seo-jin

Seo In-young (서인영), a member of the girl group Jewelry, who is set to remarry, recently spoke openly about her relationship with her current boyfriend and her romantic concerns. During a broadcast, actor Lee Seo-jin (이서진) offered some sharp and realistic advice, sparking a heated discussion among netizens. Many viewers, after watching the segment, expressed worry for Seo In-young, commenting, “Don’t let Lee Seo-jin’s words go in one ear and out the other!”

On September 11, Seo In-young appeared on SBS’s program “What Will You Do For Me – Secretary Jin,” where she dined and chatted with Lee Seo-jin and Kim Gwang-kyu (김광규), openly sharing details about her love life. Seo In-young mentioned her fondness for preparing meals for her partner. “I cook myself and then ask, ‘Oppa, when are you coming home?’ I never bother him during work, but only at dinner time, when I want to serve him freshly cooked food, I’ll call to ask what time he’ll be back.”

However, she revealed that her boyfriend seems to feel pressured by this behavior. “He said, ‘It feels like I have to eat at the time you set, which makes me feel pressured.’” After hearing Seo In-young’s account, Lee Seo-jin immediately quipped, “It must have already gotten cold.” Kim Gwang-kyu chimed in, “Completely cold.”

Seo In-young stated that her boyfriend wasn't like this at the beginning of their relationship. “He still comes over now, but he only says those things when we argue.” Lee Seo-jin analyzed, “So those thoughts were actually hidden in his heart all along, right? When the relationship is good, even if he has those thoughts, he won’t express them.”

Seo In-young and her current boyfriend met through mutual friends and have been dating for 1 year and 6 months. She recalled their first meeting, stating that she really didn't want to go on a blind date at the time. “An older sister I know told me to meet him, but I really hated it. I like being alone, so I even thought about asking him out at the last minute the day before to make the blind date fall through, but he actually showed up.”

Seo In-young also revealed that in the past, men usually wouldn't even dare to make eye contact with her, but her boyfriend looked directly at her and smiled, saying, “Hello,” which left a deep impression on her. She admitted that she likes “people who smile cutely,” and her boyfriend also has dimples like hers when he smiles.

Speaking about this relationship, Seo In-young candidly said, “I really want to live well this time. I’ve even decided on the date.” However, Lee Seo-jin and Kim Gwang-kyu remained calm after hearing this, saying, “Let’s see when that time comes,” and “You never know until you walk into the wedding hall.” Kim Gwang-kyu added, “During the wedding preparations, there will be many arguments about the wedding.”

Lee Seo-jin also reiterated his views on marriage: “I believe that if you want to get married, you should date for at least two years. I myself have never dated for more than two years, which is why I’m still single.” He then advised Seo In-young, “A woman will only be happy when she meets someone who truly loves her. Try to have a long-term relationship.”

Seo In-young also spoke for the first time on the show about the reason for her first marriage. She revealed that her mother passed away suddenly from a heart attack four years ago, and she had no idea what to do at the time. “When my mother suddenly died from a heart attack, and the hospital handed over her body to me, I really didn’t know what to do. At that time, I thought, wouldn’t it have been different if I had a husband by my side? That’s why I got married. I felt that if I had been married, there would have been someone I could rely on at that time.”

Hearing this, Lee Seo-jin once again earnestly reminded her, “You cannot get married with that mindset. A second marriage requires even greater caution.”

After the program segment was uploaded to YouTube, it sparked extensive discussion among netizens. Many expressed concern about Seo In-young’s decision to remarry, commenting, “It feels too rushed,” “Marriage should be a result, not a goal,” “You need to learn to live well alone first, then you can live well after marriage,” “I don’t know why, but I really want to advise her not to get married,” “Lee Seo-jin is right, life experience tells us that even if you detect some signs early, you can make your life easier,” “This is In-young’s second time, please be cautious,” and “Cooking and waiting for your partner to come home became a burden for him, which means the two might not be suitable for married life.”

However, some netizens also believed that Lee Seo-jin’s advice didn’t need to be followed completely. “Lee Seo-jin is right, but he himself has no marriage experience, so Seo In-young still needs to make her own judgment,” suggesting that the ultimate decision on whether to marry should still rest with the individual.

Seo In-young previously married an entrepreneur in February 2023 but divorced him in November of the same year. Recently, she announced her plan to remarry her current boyfriend, an entrepreneur six years her senior, in the latter half of this year. The news was met with many well wishes.

Below are translated comments from Korean netizens

1. I agree with Lee Seo-jin, but you can’t decide to marry with that kind of mindset.
2. I understand what Seo In-young is saying, but I also agree with Lee Seo-jin.
3. You can’t get married just because you’re lonely.

4. When you feel empty, you can’t get married to fill that void. You should only get married when you feel fulfilled and complete…
5. I understand that feeling, but I agree more with Lee Seo-jin. If you marry with that mindset, you’ll be very hurt when the other person can’t meet your expectations, and you might even demand it from them.
6. That’s right, when you’re vulnerable, you want to find someone to rely on and feel it would be good to have family around.

7. I agree with Lee Seo-jin, haha. If you marry like that, you’ll later complain that you feel even lonelier because someone is by your side.
8. I understand that feeling, but when a woman is in a difficult situation, her standards can drop, and there's a high possibility of meeting a bad man... So everyone should be careful, though I understand the feeling.
9. That’s right, you can’t get married to fill a void. Besides loans, there’s nothing marriage can fill. Your original self plus the other person makes two people.

10. Listen to Lee Seo-jin.
11. While I understand Seo In-young’s feelings, Lee Seo-jin is right.
12. I understand what Lee Seo-jin is saying, but when your mind is empty and exhausted, you can’t hear anything. I also understand Seo In-young’s desire to find someone to lean on.

13. That’s usually the most dangerous time.
14. But handling a funeral seems really difficult for a woman, not just psychologically, but also physically. Although her father is still alive, she might feel an even greater need because of this.
15. Lee Seo-jin is right.

16. Lee Seo-jin is right. Marriage is happy when you can be complete alone, and the other person is also complete.
17. Is this how this marriage was decided? Oh dear.
18. Yes, yes, Lee Seo-jin is right. @19 I am an only child, and my mother and I handled my father’s funeral. It wasn’t hard because I’m a woman, but because there were few family members to help. Fortunately, my aunts and uncles helped, and we hired professionals, so we managed to get through it.

19. Lee Seo-jin is right, but she wants to get married, so what can be done? ㅋㅋㅋ
20. If that’s the case, she’ll become more dependent on the other person, and if she doesn’t get what she wants, she’ll be disappointed… Isn’t this a vicious cycle?… This marriage should be approached cautiously.
21. Logically, Lee Seo-jin is 100% correct, but I also deeply understand Seo In-young’s feelings.

22. I understand what that means, but relying on others at such times is most dangerous.
23. I can understand the feeling, but you shouldn’t marry rashly to fill your own shortcomings ㅜ
24. I agree more with Lee Seo-jin ㅠㅠ And I also handled my father’s funeral; a woman can do it alone, money solves everything...

25. But I watched the video, and this is about her first marriage, so it seems the content is about being cautious with the second marriage.
26. Lee Seo-jin is right, but if I were in that situation, I would also feel the need for family and get married.
27. Rather than saying it’s hard for one woman to handle, it’s hard for two people to handle. If there are many family members, they can share the burden, and you can rely on them more psychologically.

28. In that state, you cannot make a normal judgment.
29. When major life changes occur, one should not make important decisions lightly.
30. I 100% agree with Lee Seo-jin.

31. Since she has already decided, I hope she lives happily.
32. So, conversely, some bad people might take advantage of your vulnerability… So you shouldn’t make decisions lightly; you must be careful.
33. This is the story of her first marriage, when her mother passed away in 2021 and she married in 2023. Seo In-young also admitted she made a mistake then. She should do well this time.

34. It seems dangerous to meet new people or get married when your mind is shaken.
35. Everyone has probably heard and knows that you shouldn’t get married at such times, but after all, in truly difficult moments, judgment can be blurred. Life doesn’t always go according to others’ advice or your own wishes ㅜㅜ
36. I also had some things happen this year and had the same thoughts as Seo In-young, but everyone around me gave me advice like Lee Seo-jin ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

37. If you marry with that mindset, you’ll still feel lonely even after marriage.
38. But no matter what mindset you marry with, isn’t it enough to just live well with the person you want to marry?
39. I understand Seo In-young’s feelings, but Lee Seo-jin is right…

40. Intellectually, I know Lee Seo-jin is right, but when you encounter such a situation, you’ll have thoughts like Seo In-young’s.
41. Lee Seo-jin is correct ㅜ People who married with that mindset all regretted it.
42. Didn’t they say to be careful when you’re most vulnerable? But anyway, it’s her own choice, so she probably won’t regret it.

43. You can’t get married because you’re lonely ㅠㅠ
44. Oh, it wasn’t this marriage, it was the last one ㅜ I hope Seo In-young is happy!
45. Especially when you’re lonely and psychologically vulnerable, you shouldn’t look for new people to rely on. If it’s someone you already know, you might get some help, but at that time, your judgment will have many flaws, and your thoughts will be distorted.

46. That’s right, two independent individuals can form a new family.
47. I understand Seo In-young’s feelings, but realistically, Lee Seo-jin is right.
48. When my mother passed away, I also had similar thoughts. Because I didn’t have many family members, it was incredibly difficult. I only had one sibling and my father, and my father was distraught and couldn’t do anything. My sibling was the chief mourner and very busy, so I did all the miscellaneous tasks… After the funeral, I handled all matters concerning inheritance, banks, and insurance companies. After running around, I truly fell ill; I was so exhausted that for the first time, I thought, ‘Should I get married?’

49. I strongly agree with Lee Seo-jin. You can’t get married to fill your own void, and the same goes for dating…
50. Intellectually, of course, I know Lee Seo-jin is right. But it’s not strange for someone in Seo In-young’s situation to feel that way. Of course, one must also accept that there might be negative outcomes.
51. Lee Seo-jin is right, but she probably couldn’t hear it at that time.

52. That’s the most dangerous thought; you can’t make choices with a desire to rely on someone or out of loneliness.
53. Logically, Lee Seo-jin is right, but I also understand Seo In-young’s feelings ㅠㅠ
54. It’s good if you meet a good person, but if not, it might just add another burden…