Woman Says Mother-in-Law Watched Home Cameras After Husband Secretly Shared Login

At some point, my mother-in-law started watching the security cameras in our home. When I asked my husband about it, he initially said he knew nothing. But when I asked how she could possibly access our cameras if he had no idea, he finally told me the truth.

According to my husband, his younger sister had also given their mother the username and password for the cameras in her own home so she could watch her grandchild. She then told her older brother to do the same because their mother wanted to see her grandchild. My husband said he thought it was just about the child, assumed she only wanted to see her grandchild, and gave her the information without thinking much about it — while hiding it from me. I was shocked and completely creeped out. She could see everything in the bedroom and living room. It’s not as if only the child lives in this house. I video call her and send her photos almost every day. Do I really have to share our security cameras, too? I think this is way over the line. Starting in October, my husband will be transferred for work, so on weekdays it will be just me and the child at home. Whether my husband is home or not, it seems my mother-in-law has been monitoring us whenever she wants. I’m being watched inside my own home.

My husband says he truly did not think it through, that he was too naive, and that after telling her, he completely forgot about it. He keeps apologizing and saying it is entirely his fault, but I do not know what to do. If he keeps acting this thoughtlessly, I’m afraid things like this will keep happening.

I cannot understand the sister-in-law who suggested this, I understand my husband even less, and I hate my mother-in-law. I just hate everything about this. What should I do? I do not even want to see my husband’s face, so I told him not to come home this week. I disconnected all the cameras and changed the password for Kids Note. I just want to cut everything off completely.

I felt so suffocated that I came here to write this post..ㅠ

Below are translated comments from Korean netizens

1. Sigh... The in-laws could have seen her on a live feed after she showered and came out to change clothes. I have no words. That foolish husband turned his own parents into voyeurs and made his wife a victim of secret filming. If it were me, I could never forgive him. How could you trust someone who exposes your privacy without any awareness and does not even understand what he did wrong?

2. He didn’t know???? He didn’t know???? He exposed her privacy directly to his mother and says he didn’t know???? What nonsense! He obviously had his mother monitor her and report back to him. My God, just thinking about the mother-in-law seeing her walking around the house in pajamas and talking makes me sick.

3. Even a woman in her 50s can see this is not normal... This is absolutely grounds for divorce. And since they are a weekend couple, was he trying to have his mother monitor her for him? In this situation, even if your own family steps in and protests, they would have nothing to say. Even cutting ties would need no explanation.

4. The problem is your husband... Saying he told her and then forgot is clearly a deliberate cover-up. If he really had told her and later forgotten, he should have remembered immediately when you first asked.

5. This is shocking... And the claim that he “forgot” sounds too much like a lie. If he had really forgotten, when you asked, he would have said, “Oh, right!” Instead, he pretended to know absolutely nothing, which makes it feel even more sinister and frightening.

6. You should cut off contact immediately. What are you still hesitating over? Just thinking about it gives me chills. The husband saying he forgot is 100% a lie. If the mother-in-law was not secretly watching, she would have mentioned what she saw at some point, but she said nothing. She was clearly colluding with her son to secretly film the daughter-in-law. This family is truly disgusting. Change the password immediately!

7. I do not even know where to begin... Even as an outsider, I am speechless. I think legal action should come first. Can you really continue living with people who have no sense of right and wrong and not even the most basic respect for you? I hope you post an update...

8. Install a camera where your husband lives during the week, give the username and password to your parents, and let him experience how it feels.
9. If it were me, I would have already cut my husband off completely. I would want to hit him! This is so humiliating!
10. This is an invasion of privacy. You can report it to the police.

11. This is absolutely something that could be grounds for divorce, right? It is not an easy decision because there is a child, but at the very least, make your husband write a pledge and have it notarized.
12. This is so creepy. What was she going to do by watching?
13. I would never deal with the in-laws again, immediately remove the cameras from the house and make the husband go live with his parents. This is beyond disgusting!

14. Not one person in this family is normal. The sister-in-law thinks that because she shares her own privacy, her brother should share his, too. The husband casually gave the username and password to his parents, and the in-laws actually watched as if they had every right to. It is absurd.
15. Just imagining it is unbearably humiliating...
16. The husband is such a fool for doing this. This is basically a crime!

17. My God, this is insane! The husband and sister-in-law both have something wrong with them, and the mother-in-law saw all this and acted like nothing was happening. That is incredibly sinister and awful!
18. Is the husband stupid? How could he not think of this? If he really wanted to let them watch, he should at least have discussed it with his wife and limited the time and scope. This behavior is completely beyond understanding!
19. In this situation, divorce is the only answer. This is crazy!

20. This is the creepiest thing I have seen recently...
21. Is something wrong with the husband’s brain? If the situation were reversed and you had given your parents the username and password for the home cameras, he would not be posting here — he would have gone straight to file divorce papers.
22. Can’t you report this to the police? This is exposing someone’s privacy without consent. It is terrifying, creepy and completely unacceptable. If I did not get divorced, I would probably lose my mind and end up in a psychiatric hospital.