Lim Do-hwa (임도화), 30, formerly Chanmi (찬미) of the K-pop group AOA, married actor Song Eui-hwan (송의환), 35, in June of last year. Her candid remarks about her married life have recently sparked unexpected discussion. Just over a year into her marriage, Lim appeared on the YouTube channel of her friend and former FIESTAR member Cao Lu (차오루), discussing her and her husband's dynamic. She confessed that while they still sleep in the same bed, they are more like "roommates" with almost no intimate physical interaction, a surprising revelation about her newlywed life.
Cao Lu released a video featuring Lim on October 23. During their conversation, Cao Lu enthusiastically invited Lim to visit Beijing, even offering to pick her up at the airport. Lim jokingly asked, "If my husband and I go together, will you still pick me up?" Cao Lu responded generously, "Of course! I'm thick-skinned, it's fine."
Cao Lu then playfully asked Lim, "Are you uncomfortable because I'm here? Do you dislike having someone around when you're kissing?" Lim directly shared her post-marriage thoughts, laughing, "After getting married, I don't really feel like kissing anymore. So, you should kiss a lot while you're dating."
Cao Lu immediately laughed in response, "Got it, I'll definitely kiss more if I get the chance!" She then curiously asked if Lim still slept with her husband.
Lim admitted that they do still sleep together, but their dynamic is more like roommates. "We really just sleep; there's almost no physical intimacy," she said. Her remarks unexpectedly revealed her daily life after marriage, presenting a side that differs greatly from the sweet and romantic newlywed life many imagine.
Cao Lu, relieved, shared that some of her married friends, after two or three years of marriage, ended up sleeping in separate rooms because their partners snored too loudly. This made her wonder, "Do couples really become like this after marriage?"
Lim also confessed that separate rooms depend on living space. If a home is large enough, it might be possible to arrange individual rooms, but her and her husband's house isn't big. Even if they wanted to sleep separately, there isn't extra space, so they can only continue to sleep together.
Lim's frank sharing unexpectedly sparked discussion about marital dynamics. However, intimate interactions between couples naturally vary, and sleeping in the same bed like roommates doesn't necessarily mean there are problems in the relationship. Compared to the romantic newlywed life imagined by outsiders, Lim's sharing instead presents a more everyday, realistic side of marriage.
